A popular saying goes, "Marriage involves three rings: the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering."
If it is commonly felt that marriage is so difficult, why do most people wish to get married? Probably, the instinct to find a mate is inherent in human beings; and I am no exception. Somehow, I believe that there is someone out there who was made specially for me, and, once I find him, we will fall in love, and get married; and only then will I feel complete. So, how will I recognise my Mr Right? What qualities should I be looking for?
First of all, I am not looking for "Mr Tall, Dark and Handsome". Character is more important than looks. I cannot deny that I am attracted to good-looking boys, but marrying solely for physical attraction will probably lead to short term pleasure but life-long regret. I have also noticed that handsome boys are often vain and arrogant, which I find most unattractive. One of the main things that I admire in a man is humility. Such a man will not boast about his wealth, intelligence or achievements, but, instead appreciate other people's abilities and achievements. He will also readily admit when he has made a mistake. Such a man would be a joy to live with.
Good communication is the key to any solid relationship, most of all, marriage. I would want my future husband to share his thoughts with me. I want to hear his dreams and to share in his struggles. On the other hand, I will also need someone who will be ready to listen to me, and interested to know what is happening in my life. There should be no secrets between us.
Life is full of challenges. We can expect to face failure as well as success; heartache as well as joy; boredom as well as excitement. So, the perfect husband should have a positive attitude and a good sense of humour. He should be witty and say things which make me laugh. The perfect husband would also be one who can see the silver lining behind every cloud, rather than focus on the flaws in every situation. With such a man, I will be encouraged to look at life in a happier and more positive way.
Above all other qualities, the perfect husband will be faithful. He must be someone who really believes in that marriage is made to last "till death do us part". He will be totally committed to our relationship, and willing to stay for the long haul, "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse"; as couples promise in the wedding vows. The perfect husband would not be distracted by other women; not even when I have lost my looks. He would be a "one woman man". In return, I will also promise my total loyalty and faithfulness to my future husband.
Actually, there are many other qualities that make a man perfect husband material. For example, one obvious quality would be the ability to provide; and, though it is not the most important quality, physical attraction must be a part of the equation for a marriage to work well. However, while it is easy to make lists, finding a man to live up to them will be very difficult. Furthermore, instead of focusing on my requirements for the perfect husband, I think I should recognise my own imperfections, and set about correcting them. As Barnett Brickner said, "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."
THE MAN WITH THE MAGIC BOX by Bodo Kox is the winner of the Asteroide prize (assigned to the best feature film of the Trieste Science+Fiction Festival).
The international jury, formed by Stefano Disegni, Chris Oosterom and Milan Todorović, chose the film according to the following motivation: “with a visually striking production design, the director creates a universe reminiscent of Orwell and Kafka, with echoes of his country’s dark past. Thereby, he seamlessly blends styles of the past and the future. The cleverly written screenplay takes its involving characters through different eras, making a powerful comment on today’s society.”
The Méliès d’argent Award – in cooperation with the European Fantastic Film Festivals Federation, reserved to the fantastic feature films produced in Europe – goes to LOOP (Hurok) by Isti Madarász.
The jury, (Giuseppe Colella, Valentina Romani and Giancarlo Soldi), announced the winner with the following statement: “A love story can be told in a thousand ways and here director Isti Madarász chooses to lead us into a labyrinth of possibilities. The beauty of the story is not in special effects but in special characters; the script really leaves them the task of leading us to a simple but unexpected ending.”
Méliès d’argent short competition, reserved to the short fantastic movies produced in Europe:
THE LAST SCHNITZEL by Kaan Arici, Ismet Kurtulus
Audience award, assigned to the film that gains the highest number of votes by the audience of the festival:
SALYUT-7 by Klim Shipenko
CineLab Award, in cooperation with DAMS discipline delle arti della musica e dello spettacolo, Corso di studi interateneo Università degli Studi di Udine and Università degli Studi di Trieste:
FRAMED by Marco Jemolo
“The choice to reward this short film was based on various aspects: stop-motion, used both as an animation technique and as a topic of story, the meta-cinematographic theme of the person’s and actor’s conjuring, and a perfect combination of technique and ideas. Considering the science-fiction field, this short film stands out for the power of the message and the engaging claustrophobia.”
Stars’ War Award, assigned by the Web Critique:
(BadTaste, Cineblog, CineClandestino, Cinelapsus, Cinematographe, Long Take, Quinlan, Sentieri Selvaggi)
ZOMBILLENNIUM by Arthur De Pins, Alexis Ducord
Rai 4 Award, in partnership with the national TV channel:
COLD SKIN di Xavier Gens
“For the appropriate synthesis of spectacular devices and narrative genres and the ambition of a moral fable in a world at the threshold of a world war, in an alternation of powerful natural images, extravagant expectations, hallucinating appearances, notions about nature and man. a film imagined for the big screen that does not fear classicism and is not afraid to excite the spectator but also to engage in reflections on complex themes. A type of Cinema we miss.”
Nocturno Award, assigned by the magazine, specialized in genre films:
HOSTILE by Mathieu Turi
Méliès d’or Awards, assigned by the European Fantastic Film Festivals Federation:
Méliès d’Or for the best feature film: THELMA by Joachim Trier (Norvegia).
Méliès d’Or for the best short movie: EXPIRE by Magali Magistry (Francia).
Urania d’Argento Lifetime Achievement Award, in cooperation with the magazine «Urania»: